By: Gillian Reynolds

Are you and your boyfriend compatible?

That’s a loaded question, isn’t it? Compatibility is obviously incredibly important for any long term relationship to flourish and grow but how are you supposed to know just how well you two are suited for each other when things are still very fresh and new. We all have typical questions that we ask when we find ourselves developing feelings for someone, but are they the right questions? You may not realize that there are actually very specific questions you can ask a prospective partner that will let you know whether he’s the one for you or not.

One way to answer the question are you and your boyfriend compatible is to ask him a series of innocent sounding questions and then compare his answers to how you’d respond if asked. Some great examples are questions about where he sees himself in five years and whether or not he’s planning on having children. Many women neglect to ask any questions about how their man views the male and female dynamic. For instance, if you have very rigid ideas about how women should be just as entitled to work after the couple has children, and your boyfriend completely disagrees with that and thinks that women need to stay home and raise their kids, that’s a problem. Questions like these are simple to fit into a conversation and can be incredibly telling.

Some people get caught up in asking questions about their partner’s favorite movie or color. Naturally these will give you some insight into his likes and dislikes, but it’s not going to reveal a lot about his core values or beliefs. Try asking things about his childhood and what one great memory is. This can tell you a lot about the dynamic of the relationship he shared with the people closest to him, including his parents. Also, ask about his parents and their relationship. Many people repeat the same behavior in their own primary relationship that they witnessed in their parent’s marriage when they were growing up. The answer to that can give you a glimpse into what a future with your boyfriend might be like.

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Compatibility is essential for the long term success of any dating relationship. There are very specific and revealing questions you should be asking your boyfriend to see if he’s the man for you.

Learn the questions you need to start asking now to see if you two really do have a future together.

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