By: Gillian Reynolds

Are you and your boyfriend compatible?

That’s a loaded question, isn’t it? Compatibility is obviously incredibly important for any long term relationship to flourish and grow but how are you supposed to know just how well you two are suited for each other when things are still very fresh and new. We all have typical questions that we ask when we find ourselves developing feelings for someone, but are they the right questions? You may not realize that there are actually very specific questions you can ask a prospective partner that will let you know whether he’s the one for you or not.

One way to answer the question are you and your boyfriend compatible is to ask him a series of innocent sounding questions and then compare his answers to how you’d respond if asked. Some great examples are questions about where he sees himself in five years and whether or not he’s planning on having children. Many women neglect to ask any questions about how their man views the male and female dynamic. For instance, if you have very rigid ideas about how women should be just as entitled to work after the couple has children, and your boyfriend completely disagrees with that and thinks that women need to stay home and raise their kids, that’s a problem. Questions like these are simple to fit into a conversation and can be incredibly telling.

Some people get caught up in asking questions about their partner’s favorite movie or color. Naturally these will give you some insight into his likes and dislikes, but it’s not going to reveal a lot about his core values or beliefs. Try asking things about his childhood and what one great memory is. This can tell you a lot about the dynamic of the relationship he shared with the people closest to him, including his parents. Also, ask about his parents and their relationship. Many people repeat the same behavior in their own primary relationship that they witnessed in their parent’s marriage when they were growing up. The answer to that can give you a glimpse into what a future with your boyfriend might be like.

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Compatibility is essential for the long term success of any dating relationship. There are very specific and revealing questions you should be asking your boyfriend to see if he’s the man for you.

Learn the questions you need to start asking now to see if you two really do have a future together.

It’s not easy swimming around the dating pool, especially, these days.

I’ve known people who have stayed years in a relationship with someone before figuring out they are sociopathic, psychos with a PAST.  It’s enough to make any once-extroverted socialite stay indoors and never go out to fish again.  With technology ever-evolving and the introduction of iPhones, the dating scene may have just gotten a bit safer.  Intelius, “a Background-check powerhouse” just announced it’s new entry into the 2-billion-apps-downloaded-daily iPhone market  with “DATECHECK.”  It is an application that allows the iPhones to be used to expose info people (ie. Your Date) may be hiding.

Once the application is installed the user supplies names and a telephone number to uncover criminal pasts, and current spouses even.  A SLEAZE DETECTOR feature in DateCheck searches, finds, and lists records of crimes, including drug arrests, sexual assaults, drunk driving, etc.  There is even a feature that shows current living situations, to see if your date has a roomate, and who it is.   Of course it will have the common features of a compatibility application such as astrological signs, and will even search online for their Facebook, MySpace, flickr, and LinkedIn pages to gather information as well.

So if your date passes the “SLEAZE DETECTOR,” the next step, OF COURSE, is to find out how much he/she is worth right?  Well, you will be able to with “NETWORTH.”   That’s right even as the gorgeous specimen of humanity sitting across from you is mentally tabulating the right tip, you can discretely find out, via your iPhone whether they can even afford it.

DateCheck for iPhones will be available in a few days online at Apple’s online APP store.  In a few weeks, we will see this app for other smart phones, and then a version for you Blackberry users toward the end of the month.

You should tell us what you think here.

Author: Keith Ward

You’ve probably heard of the Law of Attraction. This unscientific law says that your thoughts attract what comes into your life. If you think positively about what you want, that’s what the Universe will send you. Likewise, negative thoughts attract negative events and occurrences.

Does this same type of law hold true for human attraction as well? There are two schools of thought on this. Looking at it from a scientific standpoint, it does seem entirely possible that there could be biological “laws” governing how people are attracted to each other. There are chemicals called pheromones that are well documented in the animal kingdom, especially in insects. These chemicals trigger some kind of response in other members of the same species. There are pheromones to signal alarm or danger, and other pheromones that insects use to alert members to a good food source, a new hive, or which trail to follow. Sex pheromones are particularly well studied.

While there haven’t been any specific pheromones found in humans, there is much anecdotal evidence to support the “chemical attraction” theory. Women have been shown to adjust their menstrual cycles when exposed to extracts of male underarms. Other studies have suggested that people may subconsciously be using odor cues to choose mates who aren’t closely related.

What about personality and physical attraction – don’t those play a role in human relationships? For the most part, when someone is attracted to a member of the opposite sex the first attractor is physical appearance. But, unless the pair wants only a purely physical relationship, there must be more than physical attraction to sustain a relationship.

In order to keep a relationship fresh and strong, personality becomes the main focus in human attraction. Getting to know the person over a period of time, discovering their goals and dreams, and seeing how they handle different aspects of everyday life are all important in deciding whether a specific person is attractive enough to stay in a long-term relationship with.

After physical attraction, perception of a person’s personality is what initially attracts a potential mate. Perception is particularly important, as it is possible for someone to hide their true personality for a time, or at least to hide certain aspects of it. This is what often leads to the failure of a relationship, since once the person’s true personality is revealed, the other partner may feel betrayed or let down if it’s not what was initially projected. It’s important that we not be “blinded” by the thrill of a new relationship and overlook small clues that may indicate our potential partner isn’t really what we thought.

Overall, we as a species are overwhelmingly attracted to people who consistently share our values. The old adage that “opposites attract” is true to a degree, but generally, we’re attracted to people who show personality attributes that we deem important, whether or not we possess those attributes ourselves.

The Laws of Human Attraction are complex and varied, as are humans themselves. Chemical, biological, physical, and emotional factors all play a role in this age-old question.

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About the Author:
Keith Ward is the Founder and Director of the Circle of Professional Clairvoyants, which offers Psychic Readings with fully qualified Psychic Readers and Senior UK Clairvoyants.

Article Source: ArticlesBase.com – What Are the Laws of Human Attraction?

Author: Fitnut

It’s tough being an almost 30-something, single woman out there and I’m sure it’s tough being a friend/co-worker/relation to an almost 30-something, single woman. Just to help you out here are the top 10 things not to say to us.

1. So, what’s new? Anything new and exciting in your life? I know this is code for “Are you dating anyone?” Just don’t ask. If I meet someone I can guarantee you I’ll be talking about him because I’ll be so excited and because it doesn’t happen very often.
2. I recently went to a fun, charity dinner event for firefighters to raise money for a burn treatment centre. It’s such a great cause and of course that’s why I signed up… or for the possibility of meeting my future husband. And I know everyone else is thinking the same thing. So when the event is over and you ask me how it went and I say I had a great time and I’m definitely going again next year – this means that I had a great time and I’m definitely going again next year and no, I didn’t meet my future husband so don’t ask any more dumb questions.
3. Don’t mention kids. I’m lucky enough that I’m not really sure if I want kids so I’m not in a hurry to find a guy just for the sake of procreating. I had a co-worker of mine (who is a really great person) mention something to me about her sister, who has been dating a guy for over a year and that she had better get moving because she’s not getting any younger… her sister was 32. Hello??? I’m almost 30 – did you forget that? Don’t pass judgment on us prime, single women because we’re not having babies at 25. Then she proceeds to tell me she’s so happy she had kids when she was young so she can keep up with them and be a young mom. Helloo again??? Sometimes we don’t have a choice in the matter. I don’t want to be 40 if I decide to have kids but maybe that will be the age when I have the opportunity to have them.
4. You’ll find “the one” when you’re not looking. I’M ALWAYS LOOKING! I really hate that line.
5. Be happy with what you do have. This is true. I have my own place, a job, a car – I really am thankful. BUT I WANT MORE! There’s nothing like that feeling of being in love.
6. When you find the right person you’ll know. What do you mean I’ll know? Does a siren go off? Does someone come to me in a dream telling me that he’s the one? Do I get a letter in the mail saying I met my soul-mate? Throw me a bone people!
7. Stay busy and have a life of your own. I’m almost 30. I don’t go to the bar, I rarely go to pubs and I hang out with my married friends… yeah, I’m real busy.
8. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen. That’s a load of squash if I ever heard a load of squash. Some people don’t get married or meet their “soul-mate.” How come some people are lucky enough to find true love and some aren’t?
9. Put yourself out there. I have really done this. I consider myself a quieter person but I really do believe in taking chances and taking a risk especially because it makes my dull life more exciting. For example, I gave gym guy my number. Still waiting on that phone call. Part of the reason I did this is because I would love for someone to do that to me and I wanted to find out if he was interested. If not, I would know and then I could move on to my next poor, helpless victim.
10. You don’t need a man to complete you. Really? I betcha a single, feminist came up with this. There is a feeling you get from being with a man you’re attracted to that you just don’t get when you’re hanging with your girlfriends. It’s irreplaceable and I don’t want to go through life without it. I think it has to do with chemistry or hormones… really, it’s beyond our control and in our chemical make-up.

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Article Source: ArticlesBase.com – 10 Things Not to Say to a Single Woman Over 30

Author: Joseph Matthews

The basics can really put you way ahead of other men when it comes to flirting. As I wrote previously, turn taking is of utmost importance. Now let’s look at the content of you are speaking!

There are rules that you’ll need to know. And as it were, most men don’t know them!  Knowing them is important, as you’ll avoid much a lot of pain that goes into failed flirting.

It’s not so much the content of what you are saying, but rather the delivery and it’s tone. For example if you drone on negatively about a certain subject, you are bound to eventually drive someone off.

It’s a simple mistake, and understandable. We live in a culture that celebrates cynicism to an extent, so people tend to embrace it. Overall, a little goes a long way though. Avoid that in your conversations, as you’ll bore her and she’ll get fed up with you.

Other ways to make a conversation boring are as follows:

Preoccupation with yourself. If you talk about yourself constantly, and show no interest in others (particularly her!), you are definitely going to have a short run.

Superficiality – talking only about the banal, telling hackneyed jokes or stories. This reeks of shallowness, just like the stories.

Being tedious – Talking too slowly, pausing too long, and taking too long to make a point. This is common, as people try to appear calm and smooth in their interactions. Remember, there is always a balance.

Too passive – just refusing to take part and leaving the conversation on the other person.

Unenthusiastic – talking in a monotone voice, showing no emotion, making no eye contact. This says a lot, and very little of it is good.

Being too serious or somber – There are times you NEED to be serious, but you need to be able to shake that off and clown around sometimes. If you don’t do it, your conversation might abruptly end.

Too much excitement – Someone who is all over the place during the conversation, or is easily sidetracked, you’ll make the other person go crazy. Reign this sort of behavior in at all costs.

So what IS a good thing to say? Aside from avoiding the above issues, there are a few things you can do. The first is to keep on the topic, and allow for turn taking. The second is to do your part in gauging the conversation, keep a positive attitude, and make it fun! Being fun is a huge part, and you can talk about almost anything!

Another thing to look at – compliments. They can be good, and are usually most welcome. However, you CAN go overboard. If you do, the situation is recoverable though.

If you do pay a compliment, be cautious of the nature of it. You can convey attraction without having to resort to vulgar or intrusive compliments. If you know the person, you can judge it better, but be aware of this issue.

Keeping it simple, and saying something such as “You look gorgeous”, can go a long way. Going further than this can cause offense or embarrassment. While that is not always the case, it’s a gambit that might not work out. Make sure to look her in the eyes while doing this – looking anywhere else could be potentially bad.

As well, while commenting on a woman’s appearance, remember that there is a time and place for everything. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is the timing your compliments poorly, as well as an other flirtatious overture.

Always be aware of the flirtatious overtures you are making. Sometimes it is obvious – you’d want to avoid saying something to someone who just lost a loved one, for example. But there are other times, when it’s not so obvious.

A good rule of thumb is to think about it in neutral terms. In other words, would you compliment a man in the situation? Would it seem appropriate? The same would apply if it was a woman. Keep it within those boundaries, and you’ll do fine.

While compliments are just a small part, they are important, and when used right will propel the attraction, instead of destroying it.

Pay attention to yourself during a conversation. Take notes too, if you can. Look for the rules mentioned above, and make sure to correct yourself after it happens. Eventually you’ll smooth things out.

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Article Source: The Art Of Verbal Flirting, Part 3